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PEER INFLUENCE; WHY PEERS CAN MAKE GOOD ROLE MODELS TOO

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  When you ask around among most young people, their role models are mostly filthy rich celebrities especially musicians, some will say influential people like Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King Jr. Mother Teresa etc. only a few like I will mention family members and some friends. But over the course of my social life, I have realized that indeed peers can also make good role models. I know in the past peer influence has been linked to inappropriate behavior such as doing drugs, truancy, and much other bad stuff but it’s high time we started looking for role models in our immediate environment. Am not insinuating that your celebrity or influential leader you have for a role model is not good enough. No. In fact, they are the best. My argument is, having someone you interact with daily, someone you know their struggle and live in it too for a role model can be more motivating than someone who probably grew up in a very different environment and times. Very few people out there can adm
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THE MALE “BESTIE” WHY SHE NEEDS ONE AND HOW TO CHANGE THAT.

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This past week I was doing some research, I picked ten girls randomly and asked them five simple Yes or NO questions and the response was amazing. Personally, I was intrigued by the results. Six out of ten agreed they have a male “bestie”. In addition, they all agreed on talking more to the bestie than their boyfriends no surprise there and some noted that they can talk to the bestie about some issues rather than their boyfriends. So it got me thinking, what are the male besties doing that boyfriends aren’t?   Why are they free with the bestie and not you? Of course, I did some digging.  We human beings are social creatures who interact at different levels forming different relationships. The three major ones according to Myles Monroe the author of waiting and dating are the mind, spirit, and body. The body or physical interaction level should be the last but we always make it our first choice, beauty before personality, motivation, purpose, and even dreams. After some time (let’s ca
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MUTUAL AID; REDUCE THE COST OF BEING A GIVER

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 Introduction  Among my favorite books I have read this month is Joyce Meyer’s Attitudes of the mind . It’s a religious approach on how we can all change our outlook and even our lives. In this book Meyer notes that relationships (every relationship) are built on things that we do for each other, the everybody wins attitude that I captured in my previous article “Give and take” some of us either knowingly or unknowingly want things done for us every time and then we wonder why people don’t like us or why we have fewer friends. Mutual aid is a key ethical skill that most givers and takers should all have. This article may take you one step closer to achieving that. 1. Under-promise, over-deliver Limit your promises even if you trust your ability to help, certainty is the enemy of growth, nothing is certain until it has happened, and even so, it’s still debatable. When it comes to delivery do more than what they expected or you promised. A perfect example is politicians, most of them pro
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THE GIVE AND TAKE OF OUR MODERN SOCIETY: WHO'S YOUR BIGGEST SUPPORTER??

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We live in a give and take society, nothing comes for free even from your parents, your friends and even the government, to get services from the government we all have to be responsible citizens and pay taxes. The problem is we have let give and take stand in our way of offering simple help to those people who think they are connected to us.   So how does give and take work with parents? Picture this, I know there are some of us whose school fees and needs are met based on performance, not necessarily school work but how we carry out ourselves. Modern parents work with incentives when we behave well and help out with work during the holidays we are rewarded, we get extra monetary support, and when we misbehave and do little to help out with work, use most of our time on social media, drinking visiting friends, and whatever, there's punishment for that probably the school fees will be paid and the pocket money squeezed. They may not tell you why because we're grownups, our pa
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